Feb
She was my fave aunt & she had a heart attack & had a stroke when she was in the ER. She was 70 but it was NOT her time YET, why couldn't the physicians SAVE her? My mother is going nuts & so am I . Due to $$$$$ we can't afford to see a GOOD therapist to get through this so please so recommendations on “free MH services b/c it's red tape & a JOKE & no GOD stuff b/c we don't believe in imaginary friends & fairy tales . Thanks. :(. Why couldn't the Dr's have done SOMETHING?
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A physician will try anything in his power to save a life. Its disappointing to them to when a life they are trying to save dies. It hurts in the beginning but eventually you will remember the fun times and that helps a lot. This is something your mother and you’ll go through
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God needed your aunty in heaven to do greater things up there than she could have done here..God always takes the ideal from us because they are too good for this earth
Be happy dudes, Be crazy, Love life, You have one chance :)Be happy dudes, Be crazy, Love life, You’ve one chance
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Doctors can't restart the heart or clear a stroke every time. Sometimes it just gives out and nothing works. Death is like a robber in the night, I know you don't believe in jesus but his quote certianly is true.
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It was her time, or else she would haven’t been taken. Im very sorry for ur loose, but really, u should be happy it was only one person. I've lost a lot of people at one time, and I had to get adopted. Ur much luckier then others.
But, Im really sorry, I know it hurts… And i know ur mad at the Doctors. It'll pass by. Never forget ur Aunt, she won't want that. But let her go, she wont be happy until u let her go. Did u know that? Do you want ur aunt to be happy where she is now? Then u also have to be happy, ok.
If u need someone to speak to, I will talk to u Im good at listening.
Kawaii.cute101@yahoo.com
Take care!
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that is here time and you couldn't change that because our god wants here in this time not in another time we have to to be happy to her because she’s in a good place where is the peace
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I'm very sorry for your loss, death is a very hard thing to get through. It was just her time to go. You might not think it was but it was. Everybody has a set time that they will die and it can’t be changed. The doctors might have done everything they can to save her. Having a heart attack AND a stroke is very stressful on the body. There may have been nothing they could have done to save her. If so, she may have had permanent brain damage. Just enjoy all the memories you guys had together. Try doing something in life that your aunt would have liked. Like an accomplishment she would like to have seen you achieve. Try thinking good things, try to consider something good death brings. You may not believe in god but try and believe in something after death. There is a reason for life, it is just temporary. Anyway, your aunt might have died but how can you know for sure if she isnt still with you.Her spirit may be there with you watching over you. Think of good things and things that she has done to change your life. Im sure your aunt knows that you loved her and your mother loved her so she died happy. Just make yourself realize that death comes to everyone. Its a thing we all have to deal with and cant stop. So just think, she lived a long good happy life and she was ready to go. You guys will see each other again someday some how. Make a pic book of all the happy things you guys did and happy pictures of her showing the happines she had in her life, also write in it, tell happy stories about her, it will help! I hope this was help for you. Stay trong, you'll get thru it. Love your mother and make good happy memories with her, enjoy her while you still got her!
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I Lost My Mother A Couple of Year's Ago,My Brother felt The way You Do,But I Told Him The Same thing I Will Tell You,When You Get That Age,Infirmity Can Become A Curse,The Fear Of Waking Each Day grows as You get Older”Will I Fall This day?Will I become Incontinent Today And Wet Myself In Public?Will I Forget Who I Am Today And Wind Up A Drooling Vegetable In A Home Somewhere And Not Know Who I Am Till I Die? Now,If You Had A Magic Wand And Could Wave it Over you Aunt To MAKE Her Live another 20 Year's JUST LIKE SHE WAS,,Do You Think She Would WANT That?Not Likely,Ask Elderly People How They feel About Death,You'll Be surprised To Hear that Most Of them Welcome death As A Release From The Pain And suffering in this World That Old Age Inflicts Upon You.
Cheer Up,You'll Understand Exactly What i'm Saying in The Year's to Come.
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I am very sorry for your loss. Some recommendations, and resources follow: See: http://www.cmha.ca/bins/content_page.asp… Call: The Grief Recovery Institute (U.S.A.) 1-800-445-4808, or Hospice (phone book). Email jo@samaritans.org Chatrooms and forums: http://www.chatmag.com/topics/health/gri… and http://talkingminds.15.forumer.com and http://messageboards.ivillage.com Other websites: www.griefnet.org and www.helpguide.org and www.mental-health-abc.com and www.boblivingstone.com/?q=node30 and www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk There’s a grief support group at: http://dailystrength.org Also try Groups, at Myspace.com and Yahoo.com & Google.com At www.mind.org.uk type “grief” in the taskbar, and enter. Helping others grieve, and helping kids grieve are some topics at: http://www.crisiscounseling.com/TraumaLo… Understand that there are often several stages of grief. Those stages are: Denial: The initial stage: “It can't be happening.” Anger: “Why ME? It's not fair?!” (either referring to oneself, anybody, or anything perceived, rightly or wrongly, as “responsible”) Bargaining: “Just let me live to see my son graduate.” Depression: “I'm so sad, why bother with anything?” Acceptance: “It's going to be alright. Growth: Grief is a chance for personal growth. For many people, it may eventually lead to renewed energy to invest in new activities and new relationships. Some people seek meaning in their loss and get involved in causes or projects that help others. They may find a new compassion in themselves as a result of the pain they’ve suffered. They may become more sensitive to others, thus enabling richer relationships. Others find new strength and independence they never knew they’d. After the loss, they find new emotional resources that hadn’t been apparent before.
Kübler-Ross originally applied these stages to any form of catastrophic personal loss (job, income, freedom). This also includes the death of a loved one and divorce. Kübler-Ross also claimed these steps don’t necessarily come in order, nor are they all experienced by all patients, though she said a person will always experience at least two. See www.amazon.com for books on the various stages. Professional advice is to set aside 5 - 10 mns daily, and during that time, focus on all the memories and feelings involved. If you are sad; cry. If you are angry; punch a pillow. At the end of that time, go on with other things, and if such thoughts or memories come to mind, just write them down in a notebook for the next day's session. This might well accelerate the grieving process. After a while, consider making a photoalbum/scrapbook and/or a shrine, in remembrance, and set aside; say; one day each month, perhaps on a significant date, (for example; the 17th, or the second thursday) on which to reflect. Many religious organisations offer counselling, or you might feel more comfortable with a therapist, to express your thoughts, and feelings. Journalling may help in this. Celebrate that life; be thankful for the experience, and remember the good times. Practice a relaxation method, daily, and when needed, such as: http://altmedicine.about.com/cs/mindbody… it enables awareness, and a way of being, without emotional suffering, and helps you through the more difficult times in life. Recommended Resources on Grief and Mourning: Livingstone, B. (2002). Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager's Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, boblivingstone.com ~~~ Beyond Grief: A guide for recovering from the death of a loved one. New Harbinger Productions Inc. 5674 Shattock Ave, Oakland, CA 94609 Phone: 1-800-784-6273 ~~~ James, J. W. & Friedman, R. (1998). The Grief Recovery Handbook, Collins. ~~~ Grollman, E. (1995). Living when a Loved One has Died, Beacon Press. ~~~