Apr
Ever since I was in high school I’ve been a party girl. I drank, smoked, and did drugs. I was the girl with all the party favors, and always knew where the celebration was and could hook people up with booze when we weren't old enough to buy it.
After high school I got a good job and quit the drugs and smoking. I cut down a lot on drinking but never totally stopped. When I was 24, I got arrested for a DUI and had to take a M.A.D.D. and AA class. When I went to these I swore I would never drink again. That lasted about 2 months.
The thing is, even with the good job I’ve in the medical field, EVERY ONE in my life drinks. All my co-workers, all my college classmates, all my friends, all my family….I drink atleast 3-4 times a week. And when I say “drink” I mean get PLASTERED! And then I begin smoking too. (I really don't smoke when I'm sober)
It's no big deal any more for me to go to work hung over. It actually keeps me in a superior mood.
I don't really drink alone. Most of my drinking is going out to bars. I'm actually good about not drinking and driving though, so that's not a big issue (we have a free cab service for drunk people lol)
I’m just to the point that I can't go out with guys and be comfortable unless I'm drunk. I don't even know who I am anymore.
But it hasn't affected my career or school or anything like that. It's just affected my health, my confidence and my budget!
My biological father,who I never knew because he was in prison my whole life, died about 4 years ago of cirrhosis of the liver. You would think this would be a red flag for me. Nope.
So anyways. I was thinking maybe there are some people out here that we could form some kind of online chatting system or some kind of support group…Or can someone advocate anything for me?
I already tried church several different times and I can't keep that up either. Please help!
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You sound just like me. I got my first DUI at 27 and went through all the steps. I swore I would never drink again, but jeez, everyone I was around drank. And I wasn't an alcoholic because I didn't lose my job or drink alone or any of the stereotypical things and alcoholic supposedly does. I, unlike you, ended up getting a second DUI (my city doesn't have a free cab service for drunks). I on the last month of probabtion for my 1st DWI and although I did not injured anyone, I was on probabtion. I had to attened out-patient treatment (among other things) where I learned that just because I ahdn't lost my job and everyone else was doing it, I was losing something more important: my self worth, my money each time I had a bar tab, respect for all the ignorant things I did while drinking etc.
I went to the library and cheked out a book called “Sober for Good” and read it cover to cover. It sits on my bookshelf and I read it constantly. It discuss the many ways to get sober in addition to AA. (SInce some people aren't comfortable with AA I’m recommending this to you). It gives you many options in addition to AA. Of course there’s AA. You can also go to Yahoo Groups and find several AA groups. As well as the AA website that will list all the cyber AA groups that have cyber meetings each day and open chat rooms if you need them.
Please email me if you need any other info or to talk.
I hope this helped. I did all of this 6 years ago and I feel completely in control of my lief no matter what I am dealing with.
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Hon, you aren't developing an addiction….you HAVE an addiction. You need to get some help- go to AA meetings..everyday if you have to..you’ll have a sponser that’ll be able to help you.
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Brandi gave you a great answer to your question. From what you describe, you are a typical functioning alcoholic. I hope your medical field job does not include taking care of patients where you’ve to make serious decisions. You really need to change your lifestyle and begin making friends that do other things for fun besides drinking and going to bars. I think you are attracted to those types of friends because you want to drink.
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Chruch isnt gonna help… Get some support from you friends and families and just go cold turkey for a while. You can quit if you really want to and who knows maybe some day you can just drink with moderation. Good luck
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Go to alcoholics anonymous meetings,they’ll help you and you’ll meet people in similar situations.My dad is an alcoholic.I went to see him the other day at 2 in the afternoon and he was drunk.I had to get someone to let me into his place cause he forgot we were supposed to meet.I had a conversation with him and asked him why he doesint stop drinking and he stated cause theres nothing else left for him now,cause hes been doing that so long.
Hes an intelligent person but hes let himself go to waste.I dont drink regularly but when I do I get absolutely wasted.At christmas I drank a massive amount and broke my nose.I havent drank since then,cause from the first time I drank,I felt compelled to drink more and more and got wasted every time and made horrible mistakes.I think sometimes the children of alcoholics should just avoid alcohol cause there might be something genetic that make us more prone to have problems……its just a lot more complicated if you have a parent/parents who are alcoholics,emotionally and psychologically as well,maybe we view alcohol differintly than other people without realising.
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well find something else thats addicting, something good, when my father stopped dippin he started chewing a lot of gum. It was like dentyne fresh or somethin like that and he used to chew that gun non stop and now he doesn't chew gum all the time or dip. Good luck
