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Well I'm a 16 year old girl and I've been seeing the same therapist for over a year. It's not my choice to be in therapy, my parents make me. I was sexually abused when I was younger, which is why my parents make me go to therapy. So far, I haven't really talked about it with my therapist all that much. We have a little, but usually whenever she brings it up I kinda shoot it down. It's not something I really enjoy speaking about. But now I feel like I can speak about it a tiny more, except I don't know how to bring it up. I feel really uncomfortable just flat out saying that's what I want to talk about. I get really nervous. I was wondering if anyone out there had any ideas on how to indirectly approach the subject? Or if anyone had something similar go one like this while in therapy? Thanks
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My parents make me go to therapy too. They think I'm depressed (and sometimes I agree with them), so I didn't speak about it with my therapist because I didn't want to be there. But after a while I had to start talking.
Just ask something like “I'm really confused. Why did he/she do this to me??” or something like that. If that's too hard, just write her a note and slip it to her before your session. I always say things in writing that I wouldn't state aloud….
I hope this is helpful.
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Therapists know that sometimes we are not comfortable speaking about certain things and they’re very patient. Just tell her that there’s something you’re ready to explore and speak about but that you want to go slowly with it. She’ll understand.
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you could bring up your “boyfriend”
and follow it to your problem
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Here's something that few people realize one of the major reasons that women are in therapy is because of some sort of sexual abuse so it's something that your therapist is familiar with. IF she's been practicing a while. IF you're uncomfortable bring that statistic up and ask her if she agrees with it and if she's smart she'll ask the questions and you can answer. Or if that's to difficult for you, you could write her a letter and ask her to read it either in session or out of session depending on how much time you want to give her to respond to you.