Feb
When my boyfriend and I have sex, I stare off at the TV and don't make eye contact with him. In order for it to be pleasurable and orgasm, I can't look at him, I’ve to look at the Television or something else or I close my eyes and pretend that he's a hot celebrity. He then complains to me about not looking at him while we're doing it. I don't think eye contact is relevant in meaningful sex and I didn't comprehend what the huge deal was–I still enjoyed it. I told him that eye contact is far more important in job interviews and doing business with people than it is in intimacy; after I stated that, he got offended and told me that I'm too attached to work and finding that dream job. I'm a seasonal employee actively looking for full time work and feel like a nobody after having several interviews and no offer yet, and my boyfriend says I'm too attached to that situation. I wonder if I need to go back to counseling in order to help myself?
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um.. your job and sex are two absolutely different things…..
unless sex is your job hahh…….
the special part of sex is the *attatchment* and if you're not focusing on the person you're with then.. you're really just in it for pleasure gratification more than a relationship. in my view.
and if my lover was doing what you've been.. i'd be pissed too because it's like i'm not good enough and that you're fantasizing about being with someone else + you probably don't really love me at all…….
i don't think counseling is necessary.. unless you’ve an endless supply of money + enjoy wasting it … if you can't figure something like this out on your own then just be done with it!! save the other person the time and misery.
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No Need by making u r self good u can do the things properly.if u want u can do anything u can do anything.mentally be strong and u can once go to counseling
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“BACK to counseling”……
I’ve a question about all this eye contact… how often do you make eye contact in general life? also… why did you take counseling for insufficient eye contact during sex?
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Eye contact with your partner is important. It shows you're intested in HIM and not just anyone. It makes him feel as though you could be having sex with any man and it would be the same experience for you. Perhaps there are more deep-seeded issues. Are you in love with your boyfriend, or is it not serious at all? Perhaps he feels there’s more of a comitment than you’re prepared to make. Your ideal bet would be to sit down and speak it out with him. Tell him your concerns about your future and how important working is for you. Let him talk as well, and try and find a happy medium.