Jul
Hi All,
I am Bipolar and I was diagnosed at the age of 17 and I'm now 30. I cope w/ it pretty well as I work full-time and I'm not on any mood stabilizers, just an antidepressent etc… Anyway, I have a wonderful b/friend whom I've been with for 4 years but I'm finding myself wanting this other man sexually! This other man and I’ve been friends for about 6 months and we HAVEN'T had sex, we’re 'just friends'. When I'm on 'high' I feel like I could do anything and that includes sleeping w/ my friend and when I'm on a 'low' depressed I feel I want to hide from the entire world and not know anyone. Does anyone else feel like this? My b/friend knows I’m Bipolar but I don't share with him my thoughts etc… Why am I having sexual fantasies of my friend when I love my b/friend. BTW.. My male friend wants sex w/ me too.
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Antidepressants can cause mania, or hypomania in bipolars. It is at this time that hypersexuality can occur. I’m wondering why you aren't on mood stabilisers, like lithium, lamictal, or depakote, rather than an antidepressant.
Seek couples counselling, so you both have your state, but ensure that you express those feelings about needing support, rather than put downs.
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I don't think this is anything to do with bipolar but rather something in your relationship. You might totally love your partner but after 4 years might be feeling like 'the grass is greener' and that sex might be exciting elsewhere. I don't think it is a bipolar or a love thing, I think it is a natural instinct when you’re attracted to someone and they make you feel sexy.
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back on stabilizers for you!
You are creating drama, which will harm you and others, that is part of bipolar. And when the dust settles and you get to baseline you will kick your **** for being so self destructive. You are thirty you should know better. Fix this.
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Do not blame being Bipolar for your situation. It is much more common than most people would admit.
The solution to it? There is no simple solution but just hard choices. You have to decide which way you want to go.
Love or Sex is your choice
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Oh your boyfriend would love it if you told him you wanted to shag your male friend.Go and tell him im sure he would very happy with it,he would be so happy with it that you would never see him again and he would be shagging your ideal friend
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Bipolar is a psychiatric illness which involves extreme swings of moods.( That's why the name).
It isn’t clear whether u r taking medicines on the advice of a psychiatrist or not. Besides, u need sessions of counselling as well.
Do not take ur condition lightly.
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What has this to do with your illness? I’ve worked in mental health for over 30 years, stop making excuses this has nothing to do with your illness.
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That's got nothing to do with bi polar, it's just pure lust!
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um.. dump your boyfrind and be with the other guy or tell ur boyfrined how u fell?
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I’ve no experience of Bipolar, but I don't think your dilemna has anything to do with it. I'm sure these are two separate issues. If you love your boyfriend, you should be sharing your thoughts with him. Your feelings towards your 'friend' are infatuation at this stage as you don't have the three components of love - namely passion, intimacy and commitment. If any of these are missing in your real relationship you must work on them to recapture the feelings for your boyfriend. You should refrain from all secret contact with your 'friend' (phone calls, meetings etc) because your emotional intimacy with your boyfriend will definitely suffer if you’re sharing intimate thoughts with someone else.
You will definitely regret it if you end up cheating and get caught out - its never worth it. In fact your depression might sink to a new low. If you can’t help yourself, you should break up with your boyfriend first - please do the right thing.
DD
What you’re feeling is a natural human reaction (you might be feeling it more strongly because of your condition) but its how you deal with it that is important. Based on your most current comments though, I think it may be time to end the relationship with your boyfriend. DD