Jul
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I have ocd with a few things. I really don't comprehend what triggers some of them but there’s a big problem with dirty. Dirty and Bugs. Even if there’s a moth. a fly. ANYTHING. I feel care about it gets contaminated. Anything the bug touches or the side of the room the spider is on. All contaminated.
The issue: Even if I don't touch it, I feel contaminated. I'll avoid using my hand or anything like that. It makes it very hard. But it breaks my heart when I'm laying in bed with my boyfriend and I refuse to cuddle or let him cuddle me. It's like he's contminated. The only time I have the ability to control my temper and everything is good is when we're not in the house. The home isn't dirty. It's not even messy. I don't understand. How can I get over the ocd while controling my temper? Each time I force myself to do something against my ocd, I lose control of my temper. I seriously have no control of my mouth or body when this…
Answer:
I too have OCD and sometimes the frustration and nature of the illness can bring anger into every day life….and it makes sense because you realize you’ve these obsessions and you want to just STOP but it's not that simple (as you and I know)
My suggestion is a easy technique developed by the author of the book Brain Lock (I would check it out for sure). Basically, you have to tell yourself “I am obsessing over germs. I know this is an obsession. My OCD is a manifestation of my anxiety, but it does not reflect me as a person”. It's more of a self-talk/soothing therapy.
Also, your boyfriend can help by doing some relaxation techniques with you. You can lay on the floor and close your eyes, and maybe collaboratively think of a resting place. Tighten and then loosen your muscles (legs, arms, etc).
This will not only reduce your anxiety but reduce your tendency for anger.
Good luck