Mar
I have been with my partner for 3 years but we broke up for 2 months the end of last year. We are now back together and i love him so much. He’s so good to me, He will do anything for me he’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. The reason we broke up was because he proposed to me & i turned it down as i has having a really bad time with my family as my mother died & i didn't think the time was right. He wouldn't let it go and i was so upset about the death that i dumped him to have a little time alone. His good friend said that when we were both apart that my boyfriend had slipped into a really dark place & that he tried to kill himself. He would never really go out with them and just stayed in our apartment(i moved out at that point). He wanted me back but they told him to give me time, He said that he couldn't leave without me. He’s still very haunted looking and i really wanna know whats going on in his head as i love him with everything i have & want to be there for him and help. When we’re out he’ll always keep me at his side and he is never to far away from me. He keeps begging me to never leave him again, & i know i wont.He wants us to go away to Europe for a bit, but i want him being 100% before thinking about it. What’s bothering him? Please help me with what to do? Thank you so much in advance
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Hello Lainey !:-)
Awwwwwww, I'm so sorry to find out about this honey ..
In order to give you the answer so you can know where I'm coming from…
Well, my story is somewhat similar ..I did that to the guy I loved and LOVE more than life …but , two years ago , I realized he had seen me in so many intimate positions.. ( dead sister , me trying to jump from the balcony …the time I did drugs when I was 14-first and last …:-( ..and many many others…) So along with my fear of commitment and fear of how flawlessly he always treated me.., I left him with no explanation whatsoever…next thing I know , after he called me two years in a row everyday and i always treated him like , ( pardon my phrasing s***) he came back and I found out by the look of his wrists and his sister that he had tried to kill himself when i did that two years ago …fortunately , for me he is OVER it totally…:-) Now he is my fiancee , LOL…
But , I KNOW what it must have felt like finding that out cause when I did ..I felt FAINT…I know it must be so confusing honey,but in this case , I don't know if you tried talking to him about it or not …( If you did I'm sure you found out how , shut up he can be about this certain part of his life…) That moment in which he lost his mind …He doesn't want to remember it at all ..Which is only natural…( even if you would NEVER do such a thing …) just try to put yourself in his shoes..Wouldn't you want to put it all behind you and never hear about it nor ''go'' back there ever again? If he doesn't want to speak about it right now then you must respect that …!!
Do try to talk to him but if he refuses to then back off …The way it you described it , he is just so HAPPY to be around you again and , is scared that he’ll loose you and will have to go through that all over again…Which is part good part bad…It means he's so happy he's around you but he mustn't confuse that with ''owning you'' cause that ain't right honey!! You should do this , going to Europe with him ( not that I am anybody to give out advice but…) If he asked you then be sure he meant it !!!This will be good for you guys …getting him in a new place where you could begin fresh might even make him to speak about it…
If not then accept that and leave it alone ! Just let him know that , there’s nothing wrong with that , and you will always love him no matter what . so there’s nothing to be ashamed of ..
This is a very delicate thing for him girl 
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When he’ll be ready to speak about it he’ll
Hope everything will work out between us , cause he seems like he really does love ya !
G'day !
Arielle
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Hi Lainey!
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i,am sorry to hear about your mom, you have my condolences but i don,t think turning him down has anything to do with him trying to kill himself. it sounds like he’d other issues that you’ve nothing to do with.
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u are a wake job!!! why would you try killing yourself wtf
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it sounds like he was always kind of overly emotional. if he's going to try and trap you, get outta there lady! he's crazy! he's needy! he's clingy! did i mention he's crazy?! tell him it makes you uncomfortable and that you don't want to be with someone who's not going to be sensitive to your mother's death or respect your wishes for alone time. it's a mistake to partner up with someone who can't live happily by themselves, he really sounds like he needs some counseling.