Apr
How is this even possible? I am 20 years old, never had sex, only kiss a guy once, only thing thats happened to me
was that i was molested when i was 14 years old. 3 boys were hitting me and touching down there..and yesterday i went for a papsmear cuz I having some pain in my pelvic area…and now their telling me I have herpes…I mean is it even possible…Ive never done anything..I waited to have sex bcuz I didn't want to get something like this…and bcuz i was messed up mentally after those three guys violated me. It doesnt seem fair..and now Im scared no ones ever going to want to be with me.
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First, make certain that what you have is actually herpes. The most reliable way to test for genital herpes is with a swab test. They'll take a swab of a sore on your genitals and see what it tests as. Only a swab test can tell you WHERE exactly you have herpes.
It's possible that they did a blood test for herpes. And even if they found your blood tested positive for HSV2 (the virus that most often causes genital herpes) its very very possible that you just have HSV2 on your mouth. You could have even gotten this from kissing relatives, not just from deep kissing.
You are right to be confused. Herpes is NOT spread by sharing towels, and only very very rarely ever spread via the fingers. It's really spread through skin-to-skin contact. And if you've never gotten intimate with someone (or recieved oral sex) then its tricky to know exactly how you might have gotten HSV2 on your genitals.
One more thing. Even if it is genital herpes, you will NOT be alone your whole life. When I was first diagnosed with genital herpes, I was ashamed and confused and angry and sure that I would be alone forever. But the more I learned about genital herpes - how many people have it, what I can do to protect my partners, how it never leads to anything worse - the better I felt. I had several different boyfriends since I was diagnosed, and have been married now for 4 years. As far as I know, I've never given it to anyone.
I put a link to my fave herpes site below, just in case you want/need more info. I'm sorry that you're in the middle of this. It will get better. Honestly.
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Do you ever get cold sores? If so, you could have transferred the virus from your mouth area to your genital region by touching or via a towel. If you have ever received oral sex or been “fingered” or touched down there in any way you could have contracted the virus then - it often lies dormant for years, so there's no way of knowing how long you have had the virus in your system for.
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You might not have std, they could be wrong when women have papsmears is normallyy after they start to have sex so maybe your doc have some problem, and is putting it down to std, get a second oppion, and when u do tell them u never had sex and give them ur life history so they can give u a proper answer. Have u thought that the boys have passed on something to u, they might not pretrate there penis in u but they could have came in contact with there penis and then strieght away touch u down there and have passed it on to u. But u need to talk to ur gp or another gp and get advice on this and go from there. Ask ur gp if u can catch anything from them just touch them than touching you.
I hope i was a help and made sence.
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Was it the visual test (yep - looks like herpes to ME)
Swab test?
or blood test?
The visual test is usually WRONG (I was misdiagnosed that way for 2 years!)
The only way to be SURE it was genital herpes would be a swab test that came out positive…
A blood test could tell you have herpes in your nervous system, but doesn't mean genital herpes - could mean you could get a cold sore someday?
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im sorry that this happened to you ITS JUST NOT FAIR i hate that you are going through this …
but maybe the guy that you kissed had a herpes or maybe one of the jerk and that that to you did if they had herpes and thouched it then thouched you it could have been passed like that
try not to worry to much this can be controlled with med. and you will still find the love of your life and he wont care onebitthat you have herpes youll just have to work around it
im sending you bigs hugs i know it is hard
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i think that you should got to the doctors again but make sure its a different doctor and get rediagnosed they might of got it wrong. if you find out you deffenetly have then im really sorry. you can still enjoy sexual activity with people but wear a condom!!
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Yes people still will want to be with you. And you should try to put what happened in the past because they are the sick ones and I rely hope people like that die painfull deaths.
Keep your chin up love and things will aventually get better.
xxxx
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http://kamisiapmembantu .com/genitalherpes.php
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sue the sick people that did that to you
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maybe the guy you kissed had a breakout
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Did you ever Do ANYTHING? Like get fingered or oral sex with any guy?? You can get it that way. I would contact the boy you”kissed” It is possible it came from him. He should certainly get tested.
Also Call the parents of the Awful Boys that violated you and let them know CONGRATS they are have raised a bunch of Rapist Losers that will amount to nothing in life and Shame on them for doing a piss poor job on parenting. Let them know there kids might have herpes too!
Herpes is not the end of your life. It is containable. ALWAYS use a condom. And YES you must tell all your Partners. If you are having a outbreak DO NOT do anything Sexual and use the meds you are given by the DOC. My mother in law got it from her Cheating Husband …she is 59 now and she had no problem being excepted, have a little faith in people, I am sure people will except you for who you are and not what you have because of your past.
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must be a miracle.